David C. Hughes, Writer

“For the LORD your God will bless you in all your harvest and in all the work of your hands, and your JOY will be complete." –Deuteronomy 16:15

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The Epiphany of Joy, Chapter 13: Joy in Obedience (1 of 3)

Blessed are all who fear the Lord,

   who walk in obedience to him.

                      –Psalm 128:1 (NIV)

 

My obedience to what I know to be right brings me joy. My disobedience to what I know is right brings me misery.

–Matthew Kelly, A Call to Joy, page 154

 

“Why are you so mean to me?!” Hannah yelled as she jumped out of her booster seat and stomped to her bedroom. “This just hasn’t been a good day!” Slam! The door smashing into the doorframe shook the house. Mary looked at me. I shrugged and shook my head. We both took another gulp of wine and continued eating in silence. Welcome to dinnertime at the Hughes house, where getting our six-year-old to leave the nutritionally-barren desert of meat, cheese, and Ranch dressing and venture into the verdant garden of rice, potatoes, and anything colored green is like getting our dogs to quit barking at jackrabbits: it’s been, uh, challenging.

For the most part, our household is a sanctuary of fun, learning, and family time, but when disobedience sailed in on the waves of Hannah’s blooming personality, peace has jumped overboard on more than one occasion. Some call it being “strong-willed.” Mary and I call it “Pour me another glass of wine.” First came the flat-out “No,” followed by copious applications of timeout. As the petals of Hannah’s personality continued to unfold, however, the ubiquitous “Why?” replaced “No.” Now acknowledgement of our imperatives results in one of three responses: “Yes,” deliberate ignoring, or nuclear meltdown.

“What did we do?” Mary asked as we finished dinner to the accompaniment of muffled crying coming from Hannah’s bedroom.

“Nothing,” I replied. “I blame Eve.” And, indeed, isn’t that where all this disobedience stuff started? You have to admit, Adam and Eve had it pretty good at the beginning. They walked with God, talked with God, hung out with God, and tended the Garden of Eden. Shoot, they even ran around naked without having to worry about what the neighbors thought! God provided for all their needs and all He asked from them in return was to keep their paws off the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. This was the first application of the well-known parental utterance, “Don’t touch the hot stove.” God desired worship, relationship, and obedience, and He lavished on Adam and Eve pleasure and every good thing. And what did our ancestral parents do? Eve caved in to a talking serpent. Just like we still do today. Why? Because we want to be in control. Some things never change.

Time and again Mary and I have explained to Hannah the difference between discipline and flat-out meanness in response to her question “Why are you so mean to me?” As she’s gotten older, her tendency to do as she’s told rather than blatantly disobeying us is improving, but, like her parents, she still clutches the fruit of the Fall. “If you’d only obey us,” we’ve pleaded, “we’d never have to spank your bottom or put you in timeout or yell at you.” Blessed peace would rest on our household, and Mary and I would be belting out Hosannas alongside the choirs of angels singing in blessed reverence. Nevertheless, Hannah still pushes against our will. Pride certainly goeth before the fall. And the spanking spoon. And timeout. And the daddy voice . . . .

When God speaks, He expects His people to obey, and the primary source of His commands and His will for us is Scripture. “If God tells you to do something, do it!” I’ve been told many times. Like the old E.F. Hutton commercials, when God talks, people need to listen! Why? Because God doesn’t just speak to hear Himself talk, like we sometimes do. No, when God tells us to do something, whether it’s through His word, other people, or directly through His Spirit, it’s for our own good. When we obey God, we honor Him. When we act on His directives, commands, and precepts, we glorify Him.

This very book is the result of obedience; God told me to write it, so I did. Despite the fact I lived in ignorance of the true meaning of joy and its very real and very practical manifestation as a fruit of the Holy Spirit, I obeyed God’s directive, stepped out in faith, and started researching and writing this work. Throughout this journey I’ve witnessed miracles resulting from obeying God’s commands. Despite leaving a well-paying job with a relatively secure future, God the Provider has “somehow” maintained my family’s financial well-being, leaving little doubt He’s managing all aspects of my new career. Despite my ignorance of the subject of joy, God has directed me to books, blogs, websites, and other folks living joy day-to-day, revealing bit-by-bit the potential of existing in a state of permanent joy despite circumstances. Don’t get me wrong, living a life of obedience to the Father sometimes isn’t easy–that darned old flesh still seems to get in the way–but I move forward knowing it’s what I’m being called to do. Indeed, it’s what we’re all being called to do.

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Copyright ©2014 by David C. Hughes

The Epiphany of Joy, Chapter 1: The Search for Joy [3 of 3]

One Easter Saturday morning, Mary and I attended a briefing with other church nursery workers on the procedures for checking in, tending to, and checking out the dozens of children expected to arrive the next morning as their parents participated in Easter services.  Before the orientation started, Catherine Talbot, a fellow New River member and a woman who lives joyfully despite circumstances, hustled by and took a seat.  You gotta love her: she glows with joy and doesn’t even know it!  Mary and I got up, ran over to her, and hugged her.  “You’re one of the people I want to interview for my joy book,” I told her.

“Me?!” she gasped.  “Do you really see it?”

“Lady,” Mary said, “You wear it!”

I then asked her what she thought joy was.  “It’s a knowing,” she said.  “Knowing God is in control.”  Not an emotion, a knowing.  Another piece of the puzzle clicked into place.

“Joy is a place where I exist,” described Heath Jackson, former business owner and ordained Apple Store Genius.  “Whether you choose to live there or not.”  Not an emotion, a place.  Click!

His wife, Mary, agreed. “Happiness is a response to circumstance, and joy is there despite circumstance.  We were created for God’s pleasure which brings Him joy, so it’s rooted in pleasing God, in God’s pleasure.”

Heath nodded: “Joy is a place where God has called us to be when we’re walking in His presence.  I call it the cycle of joy: His greatest pleasure is seeing us getting His glory, and our greatest pleasure is when we’re in His presence obeying Him and hearing Him and walking in His grace.  Jesus did nothing except through the Father.  That’s the only reason we humans don’t walk as close to God as Jesus did.  Joy is knowing you’re walking in His will.”  Not an emotion . . . a knowing.  Like Catherine Talbot said.

During my interview with Kathryn Marie, she suggested I go right to the source and interview my daughter Hannah, who was five at the time.  After all, Jesus Himself declared “unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 18:3).  More than once Hannah had said things which convinced me that, like a cat, she still has one foot in heaven and the other planted on earth.  So one day after finishing lunch with her, I looked her in the eye and asked “What’s joy?”

She hesitated, then answered quietly: “I don’t know.  Nice, happy?”  Sounds like my answer, I thought.

“Why don’t you ask your guardian angel?” I suggested.

“Okay,” she beamed.  She held up her blue plastic Fisher Price telephone.  “I’ll ask Faith.  She knows a lot about joy.”  She proceeded to punch the fake plastic buttons on the fake plastic phone.  “Do you know what her number is, Daddy?”  I shook my head.  “It’s 1-5-4-2.”  She then put the phone to her ear and walked into the living room.  “Hello?  Faith?”  She chit-chatted with her angel for a moment, then asked her “What’s joy?”  Silence.  “Happiness.  Okay, thanks.”  She hung up and walked back into the dining room where I still sat, watching.  “Joy is happiness, Dad,” she said.

Joy is happiness, yet so much more.  Joy is a state of mind, a state of being, a continuity with God; when we are in God’s presence, we are unshakably joy-filled.  Joy is a fruit of the Spirit, as the apostle Paul wrote in his epistle to the Galatians (see Galatians 5:22).  And “since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.” (Galatians 5:25).

Joy is a choice.  Joy is a knowing.  Joy is a place.  Joy is a command.  To the church in Philippi, the apostle Paul, while in prison, wrote “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4).  To the church in Thessalonica, Paul exhorted “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).  And to the Christian church in Rome, Paul charged “be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” (Romans 12:12).  Rejoicing and being joyful is God’s will!  Joy is not passive; it is fulfilled in the expression.  Joy, though a noun, is brought to life, is made active, by expressing it.  Rejoice!  It’s so much more fulfilling–and fun–than grumbling, complaining, and wallowing around in the muck of selfishness and bad attitude.  As believers, Jesus called us to be a light for the world.  What better way is there to shine that light than to live every moment, every opportunity, and every sacrifice immersed in joy?

One day I had to run to Target to return a pair of flip-flops Hannah couldn’t wear.  After I parked, I rounded the car and opened Hannah’s door.  As is our habit, she automatically reached up and grabbed my hand.  “Dad,” she said as we walked across the parking lot.  “Holding your hand is joy.”  I can’t think of a better definition of joy than that, can you?

 

Copyright ©2013 by David C. Hughes

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