David C. Hughes, Writer

“For the LORD your God will bless you in all your harvest and in all the work of your hands, and your JOY will be complete." –Deuteronomy 16:15

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The Memory Tree (Part 1 of 2)

When we recall Christmas past, we usually find that the simplest things—not the great occasions—give off the greatest glow of happiness.

—Bob Hope

 

It’s no secret I enjoy this time of year, not only because of Who we celebrate (and why), but also because of the power of Christmas to both stimulate old memories and to create new ones. This year we got a late start putting up the Christmas tree, but when we finally dragged the twenty-year-old pre-lit Tannenbaum out of the attic, the Ghost of Christmas Present forgave our tardiness and joined in the celebration. After Hannah and I fluffed the branches and made sure all the white mini-lights were functional, we began one of my most cherished traditions: hanging the decorations. Why do I relish this tradition? Because of the memories and stories contained in each and every one of those ornaments.

The Hughes family Christmas tree is decorated with nothing but ornaments important to our family history. We long ago scrapped the mishmash of generic red and gold glass balls and Hallmark collectibles to focus exclusively on ornaments gathered over the years that tell a story, most joy-filled, but some tragic. And after eleven Christmases, our tree twinkles with meaning. This year Mary sat on our red chaise lounge parked in front of the tree and carefully removed each decoration from its box, releasing it from its nest of tissue paper. Carefully, almost reverently, she offered each one to either Hannah or me to suspend from the green plastic branches.

“I like this one,” Hannah declared, handing me a clear plastic ball filled with fake snow and featuring the silhouette of a gymnast doing a split handstand on the beam.

“Why do you like this one so much?” I asked, hanging it from one of the upper limbs, beneath the glowing LED star.

“Because it’s really pretty and it has a gymnast in it,” she explained, “and because I think some of Mama’s friends made it.”

We hung a baby rattle emblazoned with “Baby’s First Christmas,” a snow baby dressed in pink and declaring “Hannah 2007,” and a block featuring a key-operated music box that plays Brahms’ Lullaby in cut time. One clear ball is filled halfway with downy chicken feathers, a testament to the day Mary came home to discover our two dogs, Dot and Levi, had somehow pushed their way into the chicken yard. For a brief moment they’d escaped domestication and had relived their predatory ancestry with gruesome enthusiasm. Before we buried the three pet birds, my wife asked me to pluck a few feathers from their limp carcasses to remember them by. The Christmas decoration features their names—Norma Jean, Inde and Coco—encircling the top of the globe.

When I was a kid my two brothers, my sister and I looked forward to the annual arrival of the Christmas package from Aunt Dorothy and Uncle Will—it was the one gift Mom and Dad allowed us to open on Christmas Eve, a tradition that carried on well into my teenage years.

One year Mom opened the box and plucked out a clutch of small wooden birds with loops of gold thread emerging from their backs—Christmas ornaments, one for each of the kids. Mine was painted Blue Angel blue, and “DAVID” was printed on the underside of one wing in gold paint. I prized that ornament for years, and each time I hung that bird on the tree, memories of that Christmas Eve so long ago would flock into the moment and perch on the branches with it. Makes me want to chirp with joy!

As Hannah and I continued to hang ornaments, Mary passed to her a photo frame made from red foam polka-dotted in white, with “2010” written in black Sharpie on the green bow. “I don’t like this one,” Hannah professed. She skirted the tree and hung the photo on the side facing the wall so no one could see it.

“Why don’t you like that picture?” I asked.

“Because it looks like I’m grumpy,” she replied. Indeed the photo within the frame features Hannah wearing what appears to be a very Grinch-like snarl. Upon closer inspection, however, she was chewing a piece of gum when the photo was snapped, giving her the appearance of grumpiness.

“It’s a cute picture,” I said. I moved the ornament from behind the tree to the front and dangled it out of her reach. It’s still there last I checked.

As we continued decorating, the memory of draping plastic icicles on our childhood tree popped into my mind. “We used to hang icicles on our tree every year,” I told Mary and Hannah, recalling the clumps of metalized plastic tinsel we’d practically throw onto the branches by the handful, covering all of the ornaments we’d just finished hanging. The tree ended up looking like a conical Cousin It in bling. “It was a pain in the butt.”

“My dad would hang them one at a time,” Mary remembered. “It took forever!”

But for all the mess the tinsel made, my fondest memory is of laying icicles across the tracks of our O-gauge Aurora train set chugging around the base of the tree. The popping sparks and smoke entertained my brothers and me for hours. And the cool part: my parents let us do it! It had become a Christmas tradition we looked forward to year after year. My brother still has that train. I wonder if he’s reliving the Christmas dream with his kids. I haven’t heard anything about his house burning down recently. …

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Copyright ©2014 by David C. Hughes

The Grumbling Servant (2014-06-19 Daily)

THE GRUMBLING SERVANT

by

David C. Hughes

 

Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.”

–Philippians 2:14-15 NIV®

 

Many decades ago a girl I was dating told me flat out, while sitting in the car after dinner, that I was selfish.  My face flushed and my heart crashed as her words smacked into my ears and body-slammed my ego; I felt as if I’d been punched in the stomach, not only because the accusation came from my girlfriend (from whom I expected only kind words and sweet nothings), but because the indictment was, to me, unfounded.  She definitely collapsed the mood which had been building in the glow of the dashboard light.

Me?  Selfish?  Ridiculous!  In the moments after, as the words thudded to the floor and the air hung thick with disbelief, I spit out the only thing I could think of in the aftermath of her allegation: “No I’m not.”  But in the back of my mind I knew she’d spoken the truth: I was indeed selfish; I just didn’t want to admit it.  And worse, I didn’t want to do anything about it.

Oh, I’d given money to the church, and when it came to the priest’s annual stewardship exhortation to reflect on how we could donate more of our time, treasure, and talents to the community, I would nod in agreement.  To the treasure part.  You see, I’ve always been one to donate money to the church, to charities, and, on occasion, directly to those in financial need.  My most developed Spiritual Gift is giving, and I have a supernatural urge to give even when it doesn’t make any sense.  The Lord has been faithful to His promises to bless those who give out of their hearts–I’ve never been without, and I can wholeheartedly testify to the veracity of the Old Testament tradition of tithing under the covering of New Testament grace; I can tell you without an inkling of doubt that I’ve been blessed beyond measure because of my giving.

And I also believe I’m now excelling in the talent part: God planted in my heart the desire to write, and He followed through on this desire with a talent, both natural and supernatural, built up over the years with hours of practice, heartrending failures, and amazing (and humbling) successes.  But I have to admit this was one area I protected selfishly.  I remember leaving church one day when I was young and engaging in a conversation with a guest priest about my writing.  “What do you write?” he asked me.

“Horror stories,” I told him.

“Horror stories?!” he gasped.  “Why not poetry or something like that?”  In other words, why not use my talent to spread the Good News rather than wasting it on edifying evil?  Good point, but at that time I devoured stories by Stephen King, John Saul, Robert McCammon, and even H.P. Lovecraft.  I loved to read it and I loved to write it.  I had a talent for it, and I cranked out some pretty weird stories over the years.  And what did following my own agenda lead me to?  Failure.  Plain and simple.  It wasn’t until I stepped out in faith, aligned my talents with God’s will, and started writing articles for a faith-based newspaper (with absolutely no previous journalistic experience), put together and taught life skills classes to high school students in my church, and followed God’s command to write The Epiphany of Joy did my writing talent find an effective outlet.  And now, by God’s grace, it’s exploding as I’ve accepted Jesus’ command to go and make disciples of all nations.

But my old flame had hit the headpin on the nose when she called me out on my selfishness: I’m a miser with my time.  For one thing, I’m an introvert.  Okay, okay, those of you who know me are probably scratching your heads and saying “What the-?  No you’re not!”  But, really, I am.  I love spending time alone, holed up in the office wrapped in a blanket of silence, with nothing but a cup of herbal tea or decaf coffee, my laptop, my God, and my thoughts.  And when I’m cranking out a piece of fiction, I’ll also allow my characters to join me and cheer me on.  After all, their lives are in my hands.  I even insist my wife and my daughter remain on the other side of the closed office door while I’m writing.

I can’t help it: God wired me this way.  And over the years I’ve become somewhat more comfortable with the fact that I don’t like spending a lot of time with people.  It can hurt too much, it’s tiring, it saps my energy.  When I’m done talking, I’m spent.  Exhausted.  Wiped out.  I just want to drink some wine, go to bed, and hide out in my own little world for a few days to recover.  And I know there are others of you out there who totally relate to what I’m saying.  I love you guys!  High five!  But the world at large has no clue what I’m talking about, and thus my problem in the “time” area of stewardship: I don’t care so much to be with people, so I spend most of my time focusing on . . . me.

Ugh!  There, I’ve said it.  Yes, my old girlfriend was right.  Don’t judge me.  I do enough of that myself!  Over spring break Mary was tasked with planning five days of “camps” to be conducted at the after-school program she manages.  The stress of developing curriculums and activities for kids ranging from pre-school to sixth grade began taking its toll on her, so I asked her how I could help.  Without hesitation she delegated a few simple tasks to me, like collecting dirt from our compost box so she could teach a module on gardening and composting, reading over the updates to the State Minimum Standards, and building a simple kite so she could show the kids what the finished product was supposed to look like.

When she handed me my assignments, I sighed.  I hemmed.  I hawed.  I grumbled.  Oh, I did most of what she asked me to do, but I certainly didn’t do it without complaining; no, my selfishness stepped between my wife and me and tried to stare her down.  Luckily she didn’t buy it.  Luckily God called out my poor attitude and held a mirror of introspection up to my face so I could observe the ugliness looking back at me.  Luckily my wife doesn’t hesitate to call me out when my attitude stinks worse than a wet bag of corn gluten meal on a hot summer day.  “I don’t speak whine,” she tells Hannah.  Apparently I speak it fluently.

Helping with spring break planning provided an excellent opportunity for God to shine a light on the weakest leg of my stewardship stool.  And because He gently opened my heart to the potential still remaining in building up my attitude of service, I renewed my pledge to give in to flexibility, complain less, and serve more.  I committed to let my “yes” mean “yes” and my “no” mean “no,” and to take up my cross and follow Jesus, the ultimate model of what it means to serve.  “A new command I give you,” said Jesus in the Gospel of John, Chapter 13, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34-35 NIV®).

Selfishness and grumbling serve nothing.  Selflessness and gladness serve everything.  In this increasingly narcissistic world, each one of us is being called to step out and turn our eyes away from ourselves and onto others, so that we may become blameless and pure children of the living God.  So . . . how may I help you?

-THE END-

 

Copyright ©2014 by David C. Hughes

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